For years, I have been searching for ways to “live a balanced life”. You’ve heard of this… a life that properly balances the various aspects of life including spirituality, personal relationships, physical health (diet and exercise), career, education, social responsibility, parenting, finances, etc. I have read books on the topic, attended seminars, listened to CD’s, and seen DVD’s from some of the greatest motivational speakers (both faith-based and not) in the world.
My Conclusion… Balance is Impossible (for human beings anyway).
Not only do I think this is impossible, but such unrealistic expectations blur our perspective on our human state of existence. In fact, I think living with this type of mirage can be counterproductive or maybe even, destructive.
My two cents about “Balanced Living”:
Life is not about balance, but progression.
- Life is unpredictable and meant to be lived in motion. I think balancing takes away from the natural fluidity and joy of existence. I don’t think our mission in life is to figure it all out and have “all our ducks in a row”. We will miss out on the mysterious beauty of imperfection and imbalance that makes life so colorful. We need to add the colors of life that are dark, tainted, mixed, and in progress..
Balancing one’s life requires too much control; control that no human being has anyway.
- To keep things truly balanced would mean that we would have to keep everything in check including complex relationships and unforeseen life happenings (e.g., sudden life transitions, tragedies, illnesses, etc.). Can you imagine telling your friend, family, and employer to not disrupt your life balance with their problems, needs, and input (even the constructive ones)? Life is not a machine to maintain or control.
Balance may be a projection of insecurity and fear.
- I wonder sometimes if some of us who frequently hold the banner of balance so proudly do so to hide our own insecurities of being human. The projection of an image of balanced living may be our covering mechanism to hide what we really are inside. I think many of us, especially those in places of influence, live life like the Wizard of Oz. Our lives may project togetherness and balance, but we are nothing more than an old man behind a curtain seeking meaning, significance, and communal acceptance as we really are. The fear of being discovered in our true state is too overwhelming to engage.
- Side Note: Can you think of anyone who teaches on the topic that has not experienced imbalance or burnout? Most of the people I am inspired by and look up to on this matter have experienced and confessed their failure with “balance”. Many have also gone into therapy to deal with the pressures of life.
Much more could be said…you’ll have to wait for the book - Anyone want to sponsor my book project?
Closing Thoughts (Just to Clarify)…
I am NOT implying that our response to this mirage of balance should be live life out whichever way we want. I think the guidelines of moral common sense responsibility should still be in place. We must continue to progress forward.
My hope is that this blog would remove some unnecessary pressures others may put on us regarding balanced living, especially pressures that paralyze us from moving forward while diminishing the beauty of being human.
Look forward to your thoughts!
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