Ideation Blog Series (Part 5): Disturbance in the Relational Force
I read a good book last year about breaking through creative blocks called “The War of Art” by Stephen Pressfield. In the first third of the book, Pressfield shares his thoughts about the initial resistance all creatives face when starting on a new project or idea. In particular, I appreciated his insights into how new ideas disturb human relationships. Let me explain.
Whenever one starts working on a new idea, it’s inevitable that time and resources will be funneled to our new endeavor. As a result, it often affects our ability to maintain the level of relationships we have around us. Whether it’s one’s family, friends, or colleagues, new hours spent elsewhere will mean less hours with those that are used to a certain standard of engagement.
When this “disturbance of the relational force” (yes, my Star Wars analogy) is felt by those around us, it’s quite possible for them to communicate displeasure, friction, or criticism towards your new idea. In fact, most of this happens subconsciously. In most cases with people that love you, they want to be supportive. They want to see you succeed. Nevertheless, the disturbance of what they were used to is causing some unconscious resistance.
As an idea-maker, if you recognize this dynamic, you’ll probably be less prone to be disappointed and frustrated at those you love. I write this to remind you that ideas come at a cost, even relationally from time to time. Just be sure to remember that the resistance you sense may not really be a personal attack on your idea.