Work Towards Being Yourself
Everyone fakes it to some degree. No one is perfect.
The way we appear and communicate to others will probably have a hint of exaggeration embedded within. Yes, we’re human and we don’t have it all together. The more we talk, the better things sound. The older we get, the better we were.
Whether this comes from our ego, insecurities, or even delusion, we’ll probably never get to a place where we are authentically ourselves all of the time. It’s okay. That’s life.
I think the key is to become more aware of who we really are while striving to become more like who we think we should be. Having a higher or lower view of oneself than reality is both dangerous and misleading. This often plays itself out in the way we describe ourselves and the promises we make on what we can truly deliver to others. The hype we create around ourselves will only last so long. Adding more hype in communication will actually hurt us in the long run.
“Sure. I can do that. I have plenty of experience.”
Speaking like this is great if it’s true. If you’re hoping to fake your way through your life and career, I have news for you. Truth will eventually catch. You can have the best of intention in the world, but ultimately, your actions speak far louder than your words.
In light of this, I would recommend the following:
- Work extra hard to increase your skill-set to deliver what you promise in your vocation. No one is stopping you from becoming the best at what you do. Don’t settle for being just okay.
- Temper your description of your past accomplishments and your promises to others. People want to connect with others who accurately describe themselves even if we all struggle with this. It is far better to under-promise and over-deliver than the other way around. Always work towards more than what you’re promising.
- Be slow to speak than quick to listen.
Working towards being ourselves is work, but it does allow us to live with a clear conscience and a sense of freedom to be who we really are. Discover the true you.