Learnings Along the Way
Life never ceases to amaze me.
No matter how much you think you’ve figured it out, there’s always more to learn. The twists and turns of life truly keep it from ever becoming dull or boring. Unexpected lessons, both from deep sources of pain and experiences of grace, are the bumpers that keep us moving forward in the midst of our seemingly chaotic journey.
While some of the following life learnings are things I’ve learned years ago, they’ve reappeared recently as if to reiterate their importance. Here are some life learnings I’ve (re)noted for myself these past 12 months that continue to shape me as a person (in no particular oder):
- Patience is a virtue and virtues take time to integrate into one’s life. It’s pretty self-evident, but it truly takes a whole lot of time to build patience as a virtue. I wish it wasn’t so. Yes, think about this one.
- Human beings are totally unpredictable (including me). This often leads to much joy and sometimes much pain. I’ve realized that a person’s intent for good doesn’t necessarily guarantee a good outcome. Nevertheless, I’m going to continue to give people the benefit of the doubt. I’m not sure if I like the alternative.
- Reciprocal friendships are hard to find. Be as generous as you can to everyone, but be sure to invest and nurture your true friendships. Don’t spend too much time or energy with people that only seek to receive and not contribute.
- Say “Thank You” and “I Believe in You” often. The affirmation of others is truly powerful. Sending regular notes of encouragement to people you appreciate reaps unexpected moments of fulfillment. Don’t do it because you want something in return, but don’t be surprised if you get something in return.
- Kids are awesome. They remind us of the wonder, joy, and simplicity of living life. They are resilient and regularly point out all the things we “grew out of”. Keep learning from them.
- Learn to create rhythm and pace for living (when you can). Very few people have control over their entire schedule. Nevertheless, embrace the windows of time you do have control over. Keep those sacred and be sure to include things that fill you and make you come alive. Life is too short not to feed our souls.
- Don’t rebel to rebel nor conform because it’s easier. Be uniquely you while not living with angst or anger towards systems that you can’t control. If you’re unhappy, design a new reality, even if you have to make a painful transition. We need to minimize the number of people who are growing more bitter with age. #JustSaying
- Work hard towards refining and discovering your unique offering to the world (or at least, your world). Being the best at something requires us to ignore the hype the surrounds us in order to focus what we were designed to become. Go for it. No one is stopping you to be the best.
- Enjoy food & drink. I have no research to back this but I’m going to guess that there’s a correlation between appreciating good food & drink with personal happiness and fulfillment. (No, I’m not talking about going on an eating binge because of stress or depression.) If you can’t enjoy food & drink, you’re probably way too busy. I’m trying to be better in this area.
What are some things you’re learning about life these days? Please leave your comments below or send me an email. Love to hear from you.